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Have a family canon

Since the purpose of reading, of gaining an education, is to become good, our most important task is to choose the right books. Each family needs to choose books that shape character, either for good, evil, mediocre or great. So choose books that will be life changing.

When my boys were small there was a television show that they loved called “Hercules”. It was very loosely based on the Greek Hercules, son of Jupiter. I have to admit that I couldn’t stand that cartoon. I would watch it and although the main character fought evil I didn’t feel that it taught my boys how to fight evil.

So I introduced them to 2000 regular young men who loved God and wanted to always do what was right, a story found in a classic book, part of our family cannon, that we read from regularly. I wanted my sons to know that it wasn’t just super heroes who could right wrong, injustice and evil. I wanted them to know that any man, determined to live true principles, could do the same.

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Great Expectations by Charles Dickens

Each family has individual stories. We should all have a personal canon, a set of stories which we hang onto and believe in and base our lives around. A canon is the set of books we consider to be the standard of truth. It is our job as parents to choose the right books for our canon. ( Importance and advantages of reading classic stories to kids)

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The King James Bible

Our personal set of stories, our canon, shapes our lives and the lives of our children. What we focus on, we get more of. So we want our children’s focus to be on a higher standard. Our canon, the classics that we introduce to our children, can help them see, feel and embrace that higher standard. Truths and principles can become a part of our family, deeply, subconsciously. The characters and teachings in our canon shape our children’s characters.

Think about the books which have impacted you the most, for good. Think about the books which have changed your personal behavior. These are the books that you will want to share with your children and grandchildren.

Let me tell you about one book which is part of my personal canon, a book I share with my children and my grandchildren. When I

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The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes

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Katy No-Pocket by Emmy Payne

was about nine I ran across the book The 100 Dresses. It is about being generous, charitable and kind. It is told through the eyes of young girls who learned these lessons the hard way. This book was so impactful to me that it literally changed the way I treated other people for the rest of my life. I have read it a number of times since then. It still impacts me, every time. That is a classic.

Choose some classics to be part of your family canon. Give  your children personal stories which can help them become instruments for good.

I have shown you some covers of books which are in my own personal canon. These are a few of the books that I shared with my children and now share with my grandchildren. It is important to remember that the canon for each family will be different. You, as the expert in your home, decide what is a classic for your family. Make you list based on what has changed your life not on a list someone else has made.

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The Love of Learning Center at theTJEd Forum

by Mary Ann on March 22, 2011

The Love of Learning Center at the Salt Lake City TJEd Forum was a huge experiment and I was so excited about it. But it was an experiment and you never know how an experiment is going to come out. I am happy to say that it was a success.puppet show pictures

There were times during the two days that I wondered how we were doing. 140 children bring a lot of energy, noise, need and mess with them. However, I have been assured over and over again that it was a rousing success. I had so many parents and children let me know that.

It is so important to plan ahead and visualize a great out come with anything you are going to do with your children but don’t set your expectations in stone. You will need to make adjustments. That doesn’t mean that you have failed, it is just an adjustment.child playing images

I knew how the center was going to go but through out the two days staff would make suggestions and we made adjustments, lots of them. We jettisoned some plans and spontaneously added other things. The goal was to keep the children happy and keep our good natures. So we had to make adjustments.

Being present is the one thing that can change everything. I remember sitting holding a very young child who had been crying. She had stopped but was unwilling to let go of me. And so I sat there as 140 small bodies moved about me knowing that I was needed in so many places. It was the end of a long day and I was feeling it. I was tired. Children were ready for their moms to come and get them. boy reading story pics

Then another very small child came up to me with teary eyes and put her hand on my knee. I asked her what was wrong and she said she wanted her mom. I felt a twinge of irritation at these two small people. I made myself look into the second child’s eyes and I saw a person in need. I hugged her and gave her a drink of water and she hugged back. The tears dried up and we three waited calmly for mom’s to come. When we focus on the child and not on the problems they are creating for us or the inconvenience that they may be, then we are able to send a message of reassurance and caring that sooths hearts and brings a sense of safety and peace.

In the center that first morning there were so many options for children to choose from. The stations were full of fun things. It took all that we mothers and youth leaders had to keep up with all of them. So we made a change in the afternoon. We boxed up many of the options and left out a good but slimmer selection. It was interesting to note the calmer energy from making that one adjustment. I was reminded of the third rule of engagement, Keep it simple. It is a principle which leads to peace.teacher drawing pictures

We had many adults come down to visit the center throughout the day. One father stayed for quite some time milling around, watching and I’m sure feeling a sense of overwhelm. That can happen in a room full of children whether we are talking 4 or 140.

He asked me, “Do you think this is sustainable? Do you think it can be done year after year? I replied vigorously, “Absolutely!”

It doesn’t matter whether the project we are engaged in is with a few children or a lot of children. It all requires the same thing: Structure and consistency; Being really present with them; Making things seem special and keeping them simple so we can all manage; And planning ahead and then being flexible. If you have those skills in place just about anything you do with children can be a success.teacher reading pictures

You know you have success when people want to come back, especially the mom’s in charge. I had mom’s ask to come next year. Yeaaaa. My inbox has been full.

“I had so much fun helping out today! Thanks for letting me participate. What a great day for all those kids including this big one.”

“I just wanted to congratulate you on the success of “The Love of Learning Center”. I have to say that it was amazing. Everything was so well planned and organized. It was nice to see the excitement in all the children, they were all so eager to try the crafts, one after the other.”

“I am taking my entire family next year if you dare do the LOL center again.” 😉

“… thanks a ton for giving me this opportunity to be a part of this wonderful event. It felt so good to help the kids with stuff, and I felt so good to see the happiness in the children’s eyes, when they were through each task. Oh I just don’t have any more words to describe my experience. It was so awesome… It is a talent to inspire any child, and I am so gratified that I could see how it was done.”

I want you all to know I am looking forward to next year!!!

Love,
Mary Ann

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Then Aunt Abigail let her run the curiously shaped wooden butter-worker back and forth over the butter

Wouldn’t Aunt Frances have been astonished if she could have looked in on Elizabeth Ann that very first morning of her stay at the hateful Putney Farm and have seen her wrapped in a gingham apron, her face bright with interest, trotting here and there in the stone-floored milk room!

She was allowed the excitement of pulling out the plug from the bottom of the churn, and dodged back hastily to escape the gush of buttermilk spouting into the pail held by Aunt Abigail. And she poured the water in to wash the butter, and screwed on the top herself and, again all swung the barrel back and forthsix or seven times to swish the water all through the particles of butter. She even

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She was very much surprised to find that there really is such a thing as an ounce.

helped Aunt Abigail scoop out the great yellow lumps–her imagination had never conceived of so much butter in all the world!

Then Aunt Abigail let her run the curiously shaped wooden butter-worker back and forth over the butter, squeezing out the water, and then pile it up again with her wooden paddle into a mound of gold. She weighed out the salt needed on the scales, and was very much surprised to find that there really is such a thing as an ounce. She had never met it before outside the pages of her arithmetic book and she didn’t know it lived anywhere else. (from Understood Betsy)

I just couldn’t help sharing one more tidbit from this wonderful book. Imagine learning about ounces and not knowing what they were for or how they were used.

Imagine learning about fractions without being able to apply an everyday use to fractions; not knowing that you need them to make a fabulous pie. What if all they were, were hateful little enemies on a page to cause you dread each day.

Imagine figuring out square footage without understanding that knowing this bit of information would allow you to paint your bedroom a pale butter yellow without running out of paint!

That was math for me, for much of my life. I had a love hate relationship with math. I wanted more than anything to be able to “do” math. That is how it was always spoken of. We needed to learn to “do” math. But it never really meant “do”, it meant memorize and pass a test.

I remember my personal bravery. I had never fared well in math yet I took algebra and geometry in school. In 9th grade I stayed after school every day for help. Finally after two weeks the teacher said in a kind voice, “Mary Ann, your never going to get this; just come to class, be quiet and I will pass you.”

It was almost an exact repeat of that process in 11th grade when I took geometry. In fact, the kindly teacher said almost the same exact words. It has been a sad fact all my life that I struggle to do things that require even some of the simplest math.

Part of the problem is that math was just numbers in a book, to be memorized and then tested. It didn’t apply to anything real. I couldn’t move the concepts from the page to the life I actually lived. It was just so much stuff to memorize so that you knew you were smart and fit in with the other kids.

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But what about story problems?

But what about story problems, that is how we let kids know that math is used every day in real life, right? Here is how I and most of my friends viewed story problems. They were a trap. They were filled with unnecessary information to trip you up. They were designed to test your ability to discern what was important and what wasn’t. I would break into a sweat whenever I had to face a story problem. How in the world could I manage to think of it as anything real? It was a nightmare.

I propose that teaching math works best when we use it in everyday life, like Betsy did to salt the butter. I finally learned about fractions when I became a baker as a girl. Thats when I recognized the uses of math in cooking. Pies were my specialty and I made a lot of them. Fractions became friends to help me out.

Carpentry can teach many algebra and geometry skills without ever labeling them as such( Teaching basic Math and Geometry with Carpentry). Sewing is a magnificent way to teach math skills, as well as crochet and knitting( Teach math to kids,the fun way). Shopping is wonderful. Help your children figure out the best deal on products. Help them figure out if they have enough money for two candies or just one. These are all simple applications of maths in real life.

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Maggie cooking

I know that we have to understand how to add and subtract. We need to memorize those pesky multiplication tables. We need to be able to divide. Begin teaching these math concepts to your children when they are very young.

When I bake with my 4 and 2 year old grandchildren I talk to them. “Ok, we need one cup of flour. This is a whole cup. Now we need ½ cup of butter. So we need only ½ of this cup. We need 1 teaspoon of vanilla but we are making two batches of cookies so 1 and 1 makes 2. We need 2 teaspoons of vanilla. Do they understand? No. But they will. They will learn how to “do” fractions.

A real life, “I am doing it” problem is the best story problem

Please share this real life math article with others and share your real life math experiences in the comment section below. They will help and inspire others.

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