What if your child was diagnosed with Chrohn’s disease? How would that impact your life and your children’s education? AnnMarie Norton (name used by permission) has studied with me and we have become friends. She emailed me to tell me about her son and the intervening circumstance which is teaching her family.
Here is what her days look like right now.
“I have been anticipating things settling down but with another surgery on it’s way we are far from “settled”. The doctor has put him on a VERY restrictive diet and so if I am not in the kitchen preparing all of his food from scratch I am in his room spoon feeding him to make sure it all goes down. He is very lethargic right now and has to be monitored very carefully. The doctors assure me that we are in the acute phase right now and that once we figure him out it will get better. I am holding on to that faith with all of my might right now!”
AnnMarie was feeling pressed about some commitments she had made and now cannot keep. She was concerned about how this new intervening circumstance is affecting her home and her children and their schooling.
“We have had to improvise in so many ways for our “school time” over the last few weeks. I have been beating myself up over not have our official meetings very consistently, but it is becoming clear to me that all of this is our school. We are learning many life lessons and the whole family is really learning to work together to make up for all of the extra work and Nathan not being able to help.
Also I’ve had to turn up the creativity as Nathan has less to look forward to with all of his hospital trips and no more sweet treats. When we are at the hospital I give him clues about what the next special thing will be in the Closet. He tries to guess and if he gets it right we bring that special thing to the next doc appt. Last time it was as simple as some beef jerky and the “Little House on the Prairie” book. I don’t have much time for prep and sometimes I just come up with the idea of what I can put in the Closet right before we start the game. Of course, he thinks I’d had it planned the whole time. Anyway we are trying to make it work in the situation that we have. I do feel like I have not been able to give the other children the attention they need. I struggle with perfectionism and this is all teaching me that there are times and seasons for each of the children and that I should let go and follow the divine inspiration I receive for each child as it comes.”
I wanted to share this beautiful and heartfelt letter with you because it is a perfect example of intervening circumstances which might make a structured learning time less feasible for a time and which in itself becomes the learning.
It is also a great example of prioritizing correctly, taking care of the important and urgent before the important but not urgent, the not important but urgent or the not important not urgent! (From Steven Covey)
It shows clearly the power of thinking positively and about inspiration all the time. When our desire is to inspire then the ideas will come. It isn’t about time, materials or effort. It is about intent, focus and thinking.
It demonstrates that what is in the Closet isn’t what counts. It is all about making it special, keeping it simple and being present.
This letter shows that despite trials, difficulties or sorrows, that families can and will pull together, enjoy and learn if they find and follow divine inspiration, their own good sense, use the Five Rules, prioritize correctly and keep loving and serving one another.
My prayers and best wishes go to my friend AnnMarie and her wonderful family. This experience, in all is difficulty, will bless them all.
My goal is to have a family culture of fun learning all the time
“My goal is to have a family culture of fun learning all the time”. That is what Kelly said yesterday in her wonderful article, Changing ourselves for better and joyful parenting. In the Closet Mastery Program, from start to finish, I work to let parents know that they can accomplish this, and make learning fun for children as well as adults.
Kelly’s family experience is a wonderful example of a number of things that I want to reiterate again today.
First, I am amazed at wonderful mother’s and fathers who keep learning and growing for their family despite lack of sleep, confusion and chaos that small people can bring, clutter, crying, illness and the list goes on. I am always amazed at parents and their ability to just keep at a thing until they get it figured out.
Second, it really isn’t about the Closet. I love the TJEd Closet and it is a fabulous tool that can help any parent inspire and help their children gain a love of learning. However, let me give you an analogy. The Closet is like a fine car. The contents of the Closet are the leather interior, bucket seats, seatbelts, mini TV, fine radio, CD player, v-6 motor. It is all the things that you want in a car, that make you want to get in and drive. But if your wonderful car has no wheels and no gas you will soon tire of sitting in it waiting for something wonderful to happen.
Take ownership of the Five Rules and they will work for you
As Kelly said “my goal is to have a family culture of fun learning all the time. I think about the 5 Rules of Engagement all the time and they triumph over the “scripts” that I keep telling myself. They are now “my” rules because I have taken ownership and that has proved to be a huge blessing”.
The Five Rules of Engagement (effective home school strategies) are the wheels and the gas for the Closet; no matter how fabulous and loaded with materials the Closet is, without the Five Rules of Engagement you aren’t going anywhere. The wheels are structure and consistency, keeping it simple, making it special and regular planning. The gas is being present!
Third, her post is a great example of how tremendously fun we can make learning no matter what the topic. When we make it fun for our children then being with them and learning with them becomes fun for us.
Fourth, learning how to respond in the moment and to think about inspiration is a great skill to learn and it is a learnable skill. When Kelly put those books in the Closet she hadn’t planned on painting or making a vegetable face. Those ideas came as the family engaged and as Kelly responded to the opportunity to inspire her children. Anyone can learn to do this! And make learning fun for everyone.
I encourage you to learn about the Five Rules of Engagement and do what Kelly has done; take ownership of the rules and use them every day. It really will impact your family for good.
Not just our closet has improved but the whole environment in our home and the way we look at home school. Amanda Bradshaw
You are truly opening my eyes and helping to transform my family. Leah Spencer
The Five Rules of Engagement really do work and really can transform your family, not just your education.
“Learning any new skill or ability is difficult. Inertia is such a strong force to overcome. As Isaac Newton explains in Principia Mathematica: “The innate force of matter is a power of resisting by which every body endeavors to preserve its present state.” Making changes in our lives requires a stronger power of love, friendship, and truth to overcome our body and mind’s efforts to maintain the status quo.”
This powerful concept, Making a Change in your Life and Overcoming Inertia, was talked about recently by a guest blogger, Dionne Schetzel. She wrote about creating a support group while taking the Closet Mastery Program to overcome the inertia and resistance we all feel towards changing ourselves for the better.
After their last Saturday conference call, Kelly Tippetts, one of the group, wrote these beautiful, moving and inspiring comments. She shared an experience that demonstrates how joyful parenting can be. There is so much that I want to say about this powerful post but first I want you to share in Kelly’s success and the joyful experience that she and her children had last week, her joyful parenting moment. Tomorrow I will share my feeling about her experience, at Five rules to make learning fun for children and adults. Today just enjoy it!
Thanks to all the ladies that were on the conference call this morning. It was really inspiring and I came away with a lot to think about. We talked about some of the stories we tell ourselves that stifle our growth. One of my many scripts crept up today when my kids finished a movie and wanted something to do. The whole time I kept thinking, “Open the closet! Open the closet”.
I was so tired (hardly any sleep last night) and wanted them to just leave me alone. Then this thought, “You are just a planner NOT a doer.” I recognized it immediately as a script. But, it didn’t change how hard I had to work to force myself up and break that thought and “do”. But I did and that’s what matters.
Here is what we did:
Dallin pulled two art books that I got at the Library out of the Closet and we looked through them. We actually learned a lot about Victor Hugo and his works.
Have something in your Closet for inspired learning
Victor Hugo, the author of Les Miserables, was an artist too. He would use ink blots as a way to start his art work, “drawing into them to create ghostly castles, strange creatures and haunting landscapes.”
” He would toss onto a piece of paper some wine, ink, plum juice,…then he would spend a long time considering the outline of these spatters and as there is no chaos that the human gaze does not humanize, he would discover fortified castles and fountains, lions fighting, hydras, fantastic forests, an entire dream architecture powerfully lit and shadowed….” as you can see in the picture above.
I just loved that and because my kids watched Les Miserables, the musical, and LOVED it, they were inspired. I was able to teach them lines of symmetry too. Then we got out our paint and went to town.
An easy art project for kids with step by step pictorials:
First, fold your paper in half
Open it up and put some paint on only one side of your paper.
Fold your paper again on top of your paint and spread the paint around with your finger.
Open up your paper and see what it created.
Now look to find a familiar shape, a face or an animal. I see a dragon fly.
Here is another one. Do you see the Tiger face and lines of symmetry?
A picture that inspired us...
We had a healthy snack when we were done. It was really fun and the kids loved it.
I’m really happy about this class. It’s not so much about the “Closet” but a little more about how we can change ourselves for the better, to be better parents and to connect with our kids.
Kelly Tippetts and her family
It was a huge step for me to do the “doing” part. Even though I have a lot of work to do, I feel like I can change my script to “I’m a planner AND a doer”.
Kelly lives in Kearns, Utah with her husband for almost 19 years and children 16, 14, 12, 9, 7, and 3.
She has been homeschooling for 15 years and still needs inspiration to continue. She loves taking classes, reading, hiking, painting, and date night.
The Ocean is a BIG subject. It should probably be broken down to a specific ocean or beaches or specific animals and fish in the ocean, weather over the ocean, tides; well, I am sure you get the drift. (No pun intended)
I know this would make the ocean life lessons for kids easier but I couldn’t resist the books! I mean I went to the library to find a topic on the ocean and I just couldn’t resist the books. I came home with almost more than I could carry. It was fabulous!! There were just so many books that would teach kids about ocean life.
Now I could have just sifted through the books and picked a couple of things to talk about but here is what clinched it. I made the mistake of Googeling “ocean crafts for kids” under images. Cute! Cute! Cute! So for better or worse I was hooked. ) No pun intended)
So this last week we did ocean life lessons. I had my regular children ages 1, 3, and 5. I had a second 3 year old and 5 year old, a 2 year old and an eight year old. Quite a group!
I have to say that this was just such a fun day and that the eight year old was interested in all the ocean life activities that I had despite the fact that they were prepared for younger children. We did take a break in between a couple of the activities because the little boys needed to burn off some energy. I love the summer!
So here is what we did. I showed them the book About the Ocean-We Both Read by Sindy McKay. The We Both Read Books are wonderful for beginning readers or children who would like to become beginning readers. Mom/Dad reads one page and then the second page is specifically designed for the child to read. They are great!
Grandma reading about the ocean
I showed them pages 1 and 2 and asked them to show me the land. Then I asked them to show me the water. Then I asked them which is more, the water or the land. We all decided that there is a lot more water on the earth than there is land. We talked briefly about the fact that all the large bodies of water are called seas or oceans. I pointed out all the different oceans of the world. We didn’t talk about their names but that would have been a great thing to do also.
On the table I had a large stack of books. We looked at them one by one. I asked them what animal or fish was on the cover. Then we just skimmed through the book talking about the pictures. We only did this for about 15 minutes. We talked about the fact that there are many different fish and animals that live in the ocean. Ocean life is amazing. See the list of books about ocean below.
To add an element of excitement and fun this week I had chosen a book which matched the activity I wanted to do and put it into a plastic bag along with all the materials for the ocean craft. Then the children took turns choosing a bag. They didn’t know what they would find in the bag until it was opened. We first took out the book and talked about who was on the cover and then read the book or just talked about the pictures depending on the amount of text. Then I showed them what we were going to make.
Maggie's school of fish
In our first bag was the book What Is a Fish? by Bobbie Kalman. It is a book for older children and so we just talked about the pictures. We talked about what a “school” of fish is. We looked at pictures of fish that don’t look like fish at all and we saw a fish who makes “slime”. We saw fish with teeth and fish without teeth. We saw fish that were in the movie “Finding Nemo” and the children could pick them all out. They were especially excited to see the fish from the black deep that had a light on his head.
Then we made the most fun sea scenes that had a school of fish. It is pretty self explanatory. We used fish shaped crackers. We glued small star shaped pasta on our star fish to make it “bumpy”. We followed this activity with a fish cracker snack and juice.
Salem's Octopus
The next bag contained a book about Octopuses by Carol K. Lindeen. This book has some fascinating pictures and is an easy read book. We read the whole book. Then we made a darling octopus craft out of a paper bag. Here’s a tip. We were using white bags and so one of the mothers suggested that they color their bag first. What happened is that they made their faces which when the octopus was put together was either scrunched up or in the wrong place. If you use white bags tell them to only color the body and that you will make the face when you have put the octopus together.
We stopped at this point for a run around the yard and then we read Harbor by Donald Crews. We looked at all the different kinds of boats that sail the oceans and what they are for.
We read the book Mister Seahorseby Eric Carle. That was really fun. Did you know that there are at least six ocean fish where the daddy fish takes care of the eggs or fry. (a fry is a baby fish) This book is easy to read and has some amazing hidden pictures. We tried to find the hidden fish before turning the page. Ocean life is absolutely fascinating and it was fun to learn so much about it..
The next choice turned out to be a book about the sandy shore of the ocean, Sea Shores by Beth Blaxland. We looked through the book talking about beaches and who lives on the edge of the ocean.
Crabs, crabs, crabs!
On page 16 was a terrific picture of a crab. So we made a crab craft. The smallest children didn’t do this project but the older ones really liked it. They had the option to glue or staple the legs in place. I’ll bet you can guess the method they liked best. (Stapler of course)
I had a couple more books about the beach which we read. These were good picture books. One was called On the Way to the Beach by Henry Cole, which has hidden pictures which were fun to uncover. The other book was even better. It was called Grandma’s Beach by Rosalind Beardshaw. This book would be fun to read on a different day and then create a beach experience in your own back yard just like grandma helped Emily to do.
We finished by reading a book about Sea Urchins. Gosh, they don’t even look like a fish or an animal at all! We used the book Sea Urchins by Martha E. H. Rustad. Everyone LOVED this project.
Grandma School with the traveling Closet lasted almost two hours. Children participated as they felt inspired. Occasionally one or two would rest, take a run around the room and work off energy or look at a book instead of doing a project. We all had a very good time.
By the way, I checked out another book that I want to tell you about and one that my daughter had purchased. The first is called Awesome Ocean Science! by Cindy A. Littlefield. If you want to do some great experiments about ocean life this is the book for you! The other book is called Sounds of the Wild: Ocean by Maurice Pledger . Little Mary had practically played it to pieces, literally. It is a sound pop up book. You can hear whales and dolphins and sea gulls among many others. Although it is practically falling apart from so much rough use (little hands are rough) Mary “reads” it quite frequently. She is not the least bit concerned about the condition of the book. She loves the sights and sounds!
Here is how we manage Mary when her hands get too busy : )