Glen Morshower, husband, father, actor
This is Part III in a three part interview with Glen Morshower in June 2011. Enjoy. PartI can be read at Interview with Glenn Morshower on parenting
Question 3 – What is the most powerful experience you have had with your children?
Glen – The years that my children were teens were really powerful, helping them with first loves and breakups. My children felt at ease with their parents and we would take cheerful walks and talk.
In our family we had a motto of sorts – you can share everything that you are comfortable sharing (which is to say, that you don’t have to share anything you don’t want to). The door was wide open no matter what it was they felt, said or did.
We created a safe place to fall. We were a safety net for our children and they used that net lots of times. Our children knew “You are gonna be loved here!”
Mary Ann – After Glen shared this with me he said, “I am going to tell you something I have never told anyone else. I have never said this in an interview before. This is about my greatest pain and the Team Kiss”. What he shared was really beautiful and I feel privileged to share it with you.
Glen – I felt that this idea was a whisper from God, the Team Kiss. My children are 29 and 31 and we still do the Team Kiss. Let me tell you the history of how it came to be.
“My mom and dad divorced when I was three. It was a painful time. I learned early on that there is a purpose to the gifts we are given in life, even those experiences that are painful and are rarely viewed as gifts. My experiences were a gift and taught me character and gave me something to transcend.
I developed an awareness about life that I consider heaven’s gift to me. I became wide awake. I learned compassion and gained understanding and those are the things that I brought to my parenting.
There are two things that those who cross our path can give us.
• There are those give us a clear road map of how to live our life. They model excellent behavior and we should embrace the experience.
• There are those who will clearly model how not to live life.
Instead of choosing what you want, choose instead the consequences you want. Make consequence-based choices. This leads to a healthier, happier life.
As adults, we need to be careful not to use “victim speak”. Making excuses for our bad behavior or blaming circumstances for our bad behavior is unhealthy. Take the responsibility for your choices and make them consequence based.”
In later years my mother and father began to be civil to each other, they began to heal. It was then I had the idea for the Team Kiss.
Here’s how it works. Both parents kiss a cheek of their child at the same time. It is a double kiss. To this day it is my children’s favorite kiss.
The Team Kiss is a reassurance. The two people who love you and made you have their lips on your cheeks at the same time. A child can breathe in both parents simultaneously. No matter what is happening out their in the world they are reassured that these two people love them.
Mary Ann – All of my children are grown but I am going to institute the Team Kiss beginning today with my children and their children. It is another way that I am going to use to take the responsibility of making a course correction in my family tree.
I hope you have enjoyed Glen’s words and wisdom as much as I have. I loved talking with him and look forward to the next conversation. Let’s remember the most important things he has shared.
- Everyone who crosses your path is there to help you
- Give your children unconditional and powerful love and affection
- Be gentle
- Listen to your children
- Give children the freedom to learn and love them through the process
- Don’t try to control the outcome
- This is a choice/consequence world
- And most importantly “Do unto others as you would have the world do unto you!”
Morshower as Aaron Pierce in Fox’s 24
Glenn Morshower is regarded as one of the busiest character actors inHollywood. Best known for his role as Aaron Pierce on the FOX hit series 24, Glenn has a hugely successful acting career spanning 35 years.
“The Extra Mile” is a series of performances which are written and performed by Glenn Morshower. The program is a combination of motivation speaking, story telling, dramatic and comedic performance, acting instruction, and life coaching. Thousands, including a good number of celebrities, have attended these events across the US. You can learn more about it here.
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